I was even on the volleyball team for two years. I felt like I contributed. I felt like there would be people in the audience who would cheer for me, people who weren't in my family. I even go back and visit my favorite teachers at least once a year. I am friends with them on Facebook so that I can keep them updated about my life. They were so influential during my maturation process, and I will be forever grateful.
On the other hand, I can pretty much guarantee you that if I went back to visit any professors from my university, only one would remember me. There are just too many students. I would probably have three other graduates in the audience cheering for me, and that would only be if they were at the same ceremony I was. The whole graduation experience would not have made me feel accomplished.
I don't need to spend the money to rent a cap and gown, take pictures and walk across a stage to shake the hand of an old guy I don't know to feel like I've made it. All I felt like I needed was my diploma. I said goodbye to the few close friends I had. Then, I left. So, for those of you who can't relate to missing college so much it hurts, I hope you can relate to this.
By Cady Chow. Here's why: When I was 17, my mom asked me if I wanted to walk at my high school graduation. It also reports that only 20 percent of students graduate on time. Walking at graduation is a way to receive recognition for accomplishing what many students never will.
Clark and senior Sam Stockard will both have extended family in attendance at the ceremony. For some, graduation is a concrete moment in which students feel their time as academics is complete and their time as young professionals begins. It serves as a bookend to the college experience. Fieldhouse said 2, students are expected to graduate this semester, and 1, of them plan on walking in their ceremony. James Farley, who graduated in August of , said he did not have that experience.
He was in a wedding on the same day and chose not to walk in his graduation ceremony. As an alternative to the ceremony, I am thinking of writing thank you cards to the teachers and mentors who were influential in helping me get to this point. If attending a graduation ceremony is not your cup of tea, you don't need to go. Better to stay away than to go and be uncomfortable! It would be considerate to let your department know that you won't be attending.
Some universities make more of a thing of graduation than others, so depending on the vibes at your school, you might want to have some travel plans that conflict with graduation day. From the point of view of a faculty at a mid-size university: I honestly do not care if students walk or not. Any kind of personal congratulation or communication I want to have with outgoing students I do on my own time.
I'm not going to keep track of any particular student or count on being able to find such a person at a graduation event. This might be different if you go to a much smaller university. However, graduation ceremonies are often much more for the people outside of the university rather than inside.
Parents, relatives, and friends are probably much more excited to see you walk across the stage than you are, and definitely more excited than your professors are. I'd check with them before eschewing graduation before I'd check with professors. The institution itself is pretty unlikely to care. INTJ's a pretty common personality type in your major's field, so many of your instructors and peers probably feel the same way.
The one big consideration to make is your family. Depending on your family status and family members' inclinations, they might be the sort that's sacrificed a lot to help support you through your education and want to see you graduate. If you think about it, a lot of ceremonies are more about the family than the honoree e. Some parents take great pride in boasting of having just gotten back from their child's graduation, giving them another excuse to brag about all of their child's accomplishments.
Gotta love parents! But, every family's different. Even if you have a very loving family who are highly invested in both you and your education, they may feel the same way that you do about such events.
So, that consideration'll depend on personal factors. Graduations have a lot of downtime in which students stand around. And what do you discuss? Your plans, career goals, exchange contact info, etc. While it's true that your peers could just look up your email address later, many prefer to do their networking at graduation - either because they planned it that way or because the ceremony of it all calls attention to the fact that you won't be seeing each other anymore.
If you're going to skip the graduation, you can make up for it by getting this networking down in advance. By all means do what you feel is best for you, but please don't typecast yourself based on the result you got from a Myers-Briggs test. It's more insulting to academia to perpetuate that pseudoscience than to not attend your convocation. Please don't claim to require logical reasoning for things when your basis for not attending isn't based on logical reasoning.
Personality is extremely fluid and you are shorting yourself on a rare experience because of an apparent huff with 'tradition'. You may view it as an extended training scenario!
Do it, or learn to do it, and then do it. You feeling comfortable is not the primary function of this tradition. Other answers here are answering specifically to the US, but that does not apply to every country and institution. Here in Brazil I was obligated to participate in the ceremony, otherwise I would get no diploma, and enter a "hiatus" state instead of "graduated".
Your discomfort or disinterest in these events is something you'd better start getting used to : in real life just starting, as it were you're going to be required to attend all sort of proceedings which have little or no immediate practical purpose but are absolutely required for social, networking and simply to demonstrate you're part of a team.
So, without being insulting, just forget about your own feelings and do it. At the very minimum, it's your duty to do do. It's also probably the one graduation ceremony you'll get the opportunity to attend, and I see no reason in avoiding it unless pressing business calls you elsewhere.
So go and maybe, just maybe, it will be part of a small pleasant memory for the years to come. Think you're an INTJ do ya? Well it's time to start factoring in the social and human needs of the world around you, not just yourself. Successful people - all of them - know how to do this. You're starting off badly by assuming the graduation ceremony is of no importance just because it's of no importance to you.
Not at life. You appear to have a really low score at life. Honestly you give the impression of someone who thinks of themselves as above everyone else. Maybe it's only an impression and not the real you, but you need to learn to communicate and support other people, not just yourself. Be there and spend the day thanking people for everything they did. If you can't see the value of the human value in doing this, try the cynical, excuse me, logical one, that these are skills that will benefit you in the long run.
I am thinking of writing thank you cards to the teachers and mentors who were influential in helping me get to this point. A smile and a handshake and some words face-to-face would do a much better job and make better friends than a card. And not just the teachers and mentors, the librarians, lunch counter staff, porters and admin people. If they're not there on the day, the send them cards. A heck of a lot of people worked hard to get you to graduation. In my view this makes it your duty to attend, and being outstanding or a leader of any kind requires you if possible to demonstrate that you appreciate the honor and want to show your gratitude and congratulate your classmates on their achievements.
Leadership is about other people, not about yourself. Want to be a good leader? Learn to factor them in as a first concern and yourself second. Start learning to look at the world this way. Treat the ceremony as a first step in learning to develop to leadership skills and soft skills you're going to need and, more importantly, the people who you end up trying to lead need you to have. Whether you are around to let them put feathers on your cap isnt important - you can always excuse yourself with a polite letter.
In the corporate work environment it is quite common for things to not really be entirely optional. A regional term I've familiar with is "business optional," but your supervisor might say something like "[person] is going to be at this event and you should meet them," or a mentor might tell you "this will be good for your career. Usually this is something that comes up for holiday parties but it's not just limited to those. The reason that I mention this is because commencement ceremonies operate the same way.
If are recognized by the university in some way i. Likewise, I've always heard that if you are being hooded and your advisor can make it to graduation, you better be there as well. The good news is that, baring people on stage, commencement is a lot of sitting in the crowd not standing out.
You are only on stage for a minute, tops, and it is over quickly. You also have a really good excuse not to go: your sister is graduating the same day and your family can't make it to both.
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